City of Oaks Funeral Home & Cremation
Obituary
Fredrika Cox
Raleigh, North Carolina
Age 88.
Died 03/21/2025.
Born on December 18, 1936, in Meriden, CT, Fredrika was the daughter of Durbin Hart and Dorothy Frantz Van Vleck.
Freddy, as she was known to friends, never met a stranger and had friends of all ages. She was, in fact, a collector of friends. She had a knack for making people feel at ease, welcome, and special.
Freddy had a sharp wit and a wicked sense of humor, and she could hold a room with her storytelling. She loved to entertain, filling her homes in Raleigh, NC, Nantucket, MA, and Amelia Island, FL, with laughter and fun. She built lifelong friendships in each of those places, a testament to her remarkable ability to connect with people. She had a gift for hosting, able to put together creative gourmet meals on the fly- there was always room for unexpected guests and she made spontaneous get togethers seem effortless.
Freddy's love for Nantucket was infectious, and she enjoyed showing everyone "her island,” giving them the “real” tour. She cherished her time there. Like a migrating bird, she moved between Nantucket, Raleigh, and Amelia Island with the seasons.
Her friends and family would describe her as outgoing, gracious, feisty, loyal, and energetic. She valued play, and spent many hours playing bridge and games with her family and friends. Cheerful and adventurous, Freddy had an infectious laugh, a sparkle in her eyes, and a memorable smile.
She loved being near the ocean, dogs- she raised Ned, a dog for Guiding Eyes- knitting, and reading. A 1958 graduate of Lesley College, Cambridge, MA, she was an early childhood educator and director of a nursery school, and held a deep love for learning throughout her life. She enjoyed traveling with her husband to countless countries for his job in the agricultural and cotton business.
Freddy was a devoted wife and mother who had an abiding love for her family. She was preceded in death by her beloved husband of 61 years, David, her cherished son, David, and her daughter-in-law, Margaret White Cox. She is survived by her daughters, Cary Cox of Charlestown, MA, and Sally Nunnally of Raleigh, NC; her sister Barbara (Ted) Chase of Glen Arm, MD; sister-in-law Nancy Van Pelt Cox of Greenville, SC; grandchildren, Hart (Rodrigo) Haragutchi, Margo (Eddie Harvey) Cox, Sam Nunnally, Graham Cox, and Matthew Nunnally; 4 nieces and 2 nephews.
A Southern belle by way of her maternal grandparents and a frugal New Englander by way of her paternal grandparents, Freddy had a true gift for connecting with people from all walks of life. She will be dearly missed.
A memorial service will be held on Friday, May 9, 2025 at 2:00 pm at White Memorial Presbyterian Church in Raleigh, NC. The ashes of Freddy and her husband, David, will be scattered on Nantucket in July with family present.
In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made to Guiding Eyes for the Blind, A Safe Place Nantucket, or First Congregational Church Nantucket.
For additional information or for service details, please reach out to the family directly.
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City of Oaks Cremation and Funeral Home is a full-service funeral home in Raleigh, serving all of North Carolina and beyond. We provide an alternative to costly funeral homes and every day we help families in Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill and all over North Carolina make simple, affordable funeral arrangements.
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Just like all other licensed funeral homes in North Carolina, City of Oaks Cremation, LLC is regulated by the NC Board of Funeral Service.
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Our Funeral Home is located in Wake County NC; however, we provide our services to families throughout the entire State.
Unlike other funeral homes, we don't charge an additional mileage fee. Regardless of what county you live in, we can help your family with making simple, affordable funeral arrangements. From Asheville to Wilmington, we're proud to help families statewide.
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$1196.75
Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. We include everything you need for a simple or direct cremation. Simple, affordable and reliable. We have not changed the cost of our direct cremation service since we opened City of Oaks in 2012.
$2875.66
We offer the option of choosing how you receive your loved ones remains. Selecting our Direct Cremation with Solidified Remains option is a beautiful way to transform cremated remains into 40-60 “stones” that you can hold.
$1917.84
City of Oaks Funeral Home and Cremation provides an affordable cremation option with onsite visitation. Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. Simple, affordable and reliable.
$2497.50
An immediate burial has the same end result as a traditional burial; however, we have eliminated the extra (sometimes unnecessary) services prior to getting to the cemetery. Not everyone wants an open casket for viewing or a limousine for the family. Despite the term immediate, we can move as fast as you need or as slow as you like. This option simply allows you to save money by eliminating some of the fancy extras at the funeral home.
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We offer the same traditional funeral services as the big corporately owned funeral homes in the area; however, we cost about half the amount. You might consider a traditional funeral service if your family is looking for an open casket visitation, a traditional church service or a funeral service in the funeral home's chapel. A traditional funeral service can be altered to fit the needs of your family.
$3033.75
This establishment is one of a select number of funeral homes who meet the criteria for providing green funeral service by the Green Burial Council; a tax-exempt, nonprofit organization working to encourage environmentally sustainability in the field of funeral service. Our Green options allow for a funeral to take place without the use of toxic and non-biodegradable materials/chemicals.
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As an alternative to traditional cremation, City of Oaks Funeral Home also offers Aquamation. The Aquamation process, often referred to as alkaline hydrolysis, uses a solution of water and potassium hydroxide to facilitate natural decomposition.