City of Oaks Funeral Home & Cremation
Obituary
Barbara Ivey O’Neal
Durham, North Carolina
Age 86.
Died 07/20/2024.
She graduated from Salem Academy in Winston-Salem, NC, in 1956, and earned her bachelor's degree from Duke University in 1960.
Throughout her lifetime, Barbara found joy in a myriad of activities. She engaged in spirited discussions in book groups. She appreciated music, gardening, going barefoot, and being delightfully silly with friends and family. Barbara was known for making mischief, and cherishing lifelong friendships. Dogs held a special place in her heart, and she was always transported by classical music. She had a passion for traveling, camping in the woods, enjoying fire pits, and curling up with a good book. Barbara took pleasure in spoiling her grandchildren, and using her wit to entertain the staff at her group care home.
Barbara was married to Gene Hafer in 1961 and to Ed O’Neal in 1976. She was preceded in death by her husband, Ed O’Neal, her brothers Dr. Tom Ivey and Leon Ivey Jr., and her daughter, Kathryn Lynne Hafer.
She is survived by her daughters, Susan Richman and Janet Lamb (Chris), her grandchildren, Lynne Stelljes (Matt), Liz Richman, and Derek and Michael Lamb. Barbara is also survived by her ex-husband, Gene Hafer (Holly), her sister, Adelyn Ivey Dodd, her niece and nephew, Lee Williamson and Laura Kirkpatrick (Dennis), and her great-nephew, Franek Williamson.
Barbara’s daughters would like to express their appreciation for the loving care given by the staff of Rockbridge Senior Care Home during her later years.
Family and friends, please drop in to celebrate Barbara’s life between 1-3 pm on August 31st at The Overture, 5910 Farrington Rd, Chapel Hill, NC. She wanted us to dress casually, enjoy some refreshments, and tell each other stories about her.
In lieu of flowers, the family requests that memorial contributions be made to your local hospice or animal shelter.
For additional information or for service details, please reach out to the family directly.
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City of Oaks Cremation and Funeral Home is a full-service funeral home in Raleigh, serving all of North Carolina and beyond. We provide an alternative to costly funeral homes and every day we help families in Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill and all over North Carolina make simple, affordable funeral arrangements.
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Apples to Apples
Just like all other licensed funeral homes in North Carolina, City of Oaks Cremation, LLC is regulated by the NC Board of Funeral Service.
The same laws that apply to the big corporate funeral homes also apply to the modest independently owned firms like ours. All crematories in North Carolina, regardless of who owns them, are inspected annually by the state and must adhere to the same rules and laws.
Genuine Care
We're committed to providing families within our community unsurpassed service before, during and after the time of loss.
Our staff will provide clear communication to your family through each step as we move forward from the original phone call notifying us of a death to the time we deliver the urn back to your family. We will treat your family with the utmost respect, as we honor the wishes of your loved one.
We promise to make this process affordable and as endurable as possible.
State Wide
Our Funeral Home is located in Wake County NC; however, we provide our services to families throughout the entire State.
Unlike other funeral homes, we don't charge an additional mileage fee. Regardless of what county you live in, we can help your family with making simple, affordable funeral arrangements. From Asheville to Wilmington, we're proud to help families statewide.
Our Services
$1196.75
Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. We include everything you need for a simple or direct cremation. Simple, affordable and reliable. We have not changed the cost of our direct cremation service since we opened City of Oaks in 2012.
$2875.66
We offer the option of choosing how you receive your loved ones remains. Selecting our Direct Cremation with Solidified Remains option is a beautiful way to transform cremated remains into 40-60 “stones” that you can hold.
$1917.84
City of Oaks Funeral Home and Cremation provides an affordable cremation option with onsite visitation. Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. Simple, affordable and reliable.
$2497.50
An immediate burial has the same end result as a traditional burial; however, we have eliminated the extra (sometimes unnecessary) services prior to getting to the cemetery. Not everyone wants an open casket for viewing or a limousine for the family. Despite the term immediate, we can move as fast as you need or as slow as you like. This option simply allows you to save money by eliminating some of the fancy extras at the funeral home.
$6081.48
We offer the same traditional funeral services as the big corporately owned funeral homes in the area; however, we cost about half the amount. You might consider a traditional funeral service if your family is looking for an open casket visitation, a traditional church service or a funeral service in the funeral home's chapel. A traditional funeral service can be altered to fit the needs of your family.
$3033.75
This establishment is one of a select number of funeral homes who meet the criteria for providing green funeral service by the Green Burial Council; a tax-exempt, nonprofit organization working to encourage environmentally sustainability in the field of funeral service. Our Green options allow for a funeral to take place without the use of toxic and non-biodegradable materials/chemicals.
$2640.59
As an alternative to traditional cremation, City of Oaks Funeral Home also offers Aquamation. The Aquamation process, often referred to as alkaline hydrolysis, uses a solution of water and potassium hydroxide to facilitate natural decomposition.