City of Oaks Funeral Home & Cremation
Obituary
Ralph J Weaver III, "Trey"
Cary, North Carolina
Age 69.
Died 05/23/2024.
Trey was a Christian whose faith in God provided him with perseverance, strength, hope and comfort. Trey was a resilient and determined person who overcame early challenges to lead a meaningful and fulfilling life. He also had a wonderful sense of humor.
Trey tragically lost his mother at the tender age of 5 and his father at the age of 10. He spent the following 8 years at Maude Carpenter Children’s Home in Wichita KS and several foster homes. After graduating from high school, Trey enlisted in the US Air Force, serving in the Weather Equipment Division. He served for 2 years, receiving an early honorable discharge to attend college. He subsequently earned a Bachelor of Science Degree in Electrical Engineering from Montana State University.
Upon completing his college degree, Trey embarked on his professional career, starting in Calhoun GA where he met the love of his life, Susan. They were married on June 15, 1979. Following their marriage, Trey and Susan began a journey together that took them to various cities across the country in pursuit of his career goals. Their first stop was Portland OR followed by Twin Falls ID and Syracuse NY, where their son was born. Next up was Indianapolis, Indiana where their daughter was born, followed by Holmdel, NJ. When they relocated to North Carolina, they finally found their forever home and have lived in Cary for the past 25 years.
Trey had a distinguished professional career marked by numerous achievements and recognition. His dedication to his work and his unique problem-solving skills resulted in Trey being promoted to key positions of increasing responsibility throughout his career. His ingenuity and innovation led to numerous professional awards, and several patents for his inventions, which left an indelible impact on several organizations, particularly in the telecommunications industry. Those qualities, as well as his dedication to excellence earned him the respect and admiration of his colleagues and peers.
Trey’s life story is one of following God, resilience, and the triumph of the human spirit. He touched the lives of many with his sense of humor, generosity, intelligence, and unwavering determination. His legacy will continue to live on in the hearts of his family and friends.
A Celebration of Life will be held July 13 at 11:00 am, Brooks Avenue Church of Christ, 700 Brooks Avenue, Raleigh NC. The service will be livestreamed at https://www.youtube.com/live/Dg-1C1K7ZLE. Cremation services provided by City of Oaks, Raleigh, NC. In lieu of flowers, Trey requested donations be made to Agape of North Carolina, a Christian foster and adoption agency. Donate online at: Agapeofnc.org/give/.
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City of Oaks Cremation and Funeral Home is a full-service funeral home in Raleigh, serving all of North Carolina and beyond. We provide an alternative to costly funeral homes and every day we help families in Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill and all over North Carolina make simple, affordable funeral arrangements.
Simply having to reach out to a funeral home can feel overwhelming. Our goal is to simplify the entire funeral home experience and make the process as easy as possible. We hope to eliminate any unnecessary surprises by publishing our total cost and the services we provide directly on our website. All of our obituaries are provided free of charge as a way to help families celebrate and commemorate the lives of their loved ones.
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Apples to Apples
Just like all other licensed funeral homes in North Carolina, City of Oaks Cremation, LLC is regulated by the NC Board of Funeral Service.
The same laws that apply to the big corporate funeral homes also apply to the modest independently owned firms like ours. All crematories in North Carolina, regardless of who owns them, are inspected annually by the state and must adhere to the same rules and laws.
Genuine Care
We're committed to providing families within our community unsurpassed service before, during and after the time of loss.
Our staff will provide clear communication to your family through each step as we move forward from the original phone call notifying us of a death to the time we deliver the urn back to your family. We will treat your family with the utmost respect, as we honor the wishes of your loved one.
We promise to make this process affordable and as endurable as possible.
State Wide
Our Funeral Home is located in Wake County NC; however, we provide our services to families throughout the entire State.
Unlike other funeral homes, we don't charge an additional mileage fee. Regardless of what county you live in, we can help your family with making simple, affordable funeral arrangements. From Asheville to Wilmington, we're proud to help families statewide.
Our Services
$1196.75
Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. We include everything you need for a simple or direct cremation. Simple, affordable and reliable. We have not changed the cost of our direct cremation service since we opened City of Oaks in 2012.
$2875.66
We offer the option of choosing how you receive your loved ones remains. Selecting our Direct Cremation with Solidified Remains option is a beautiful way to transform cremated remains into 40-60 “stones” that you can hold.
$1917.84
City of Oaks Funeral Home and Cremation provides an affordable cremation option with onsite visitation. Nobody likes surprise costs added in at the last minute. We guarantee you will not find any hidden charges here. Simple, affordable and reliable.
$2497.50
An immediate burial has the same end result as a traditional burial; however, we have eliminated the extra (sometimes unnecessary) services prior to getting to the cemetery. Not everyone wants an open casket for viewing or a limousine for the family. Despite the term immediate, we can move as fast as you need or as slow as you like. This option simply allows you to save money by eliminating some of the fancy extras at the funeral home.
$6081.48
We offer the same traditional funeral services as the big corporately owned funeral homes in the area; however, we cost about half the amount. You might consider a traditional funeral service if your family is looking for an open casket visitation, a traditional church service or a funeral service in the funeral home's chapel. A traditional funeral service can be altered to fit the needs of your family.
$3033.75
This establishment is one of a select number of funeral homes who meet the criteria for providing green funeral service by the Green Burial Council; a tax-exempt, nonprofit organization working to encourage environmentally sustainability in the field of funeral service. Our Green options allow for a funeral to take place without the use of toxic and non-biodegradable materials/chemicals.
$2640.59
As an alternative to traditional cremation, City of Oaks Funeral Home also offers Aquamation. The Aquamation process, often referred to as alkaline hydrolysis, uses a solution of water and potassium hydroxide to facilitate natural decomposition.